Dating advice for divorced moms
I can tell, from your tone, that you’re speaking your truth, based on your experience, and I would never attempt to negate it. Your value goes up – your self-awareness, your experience, your wisdom, your sex drive, your income – and yet, to men, your value goes down.
And the main reasons it goes down are because he wants to have kids or because he’s still a slave to the Maxim aesthetic.
One reason that women rarely want to consider (and I’m not necessarily applying this to you, Joan), is that with their experience comes a darker lining.
Moxie hit it on the head in yesterday’s post that successful, intelligent woman can often be anxious, self-righteous, negative, and entitled.
We don’t keep track of how many times our partner kept his/her mouth shut for the sake of harmony. If you think it’s because men like drama, I’ll have to respectfully disagree. Once a man reaches a certain age, he prefers easy relationships.
In addition to the obvious physical attraction reasons, this man emphasized that it was so much EASIER to go out with a younger woman who has not yet been scarred by life. This is one of the things that women often ignore when they question the tastes of men. But I assume your question was not simply looking for validation: “You’re perfect. If you’re going out and doing things you love and putting yourself in the position to meet like-minded men, great.
I’m amazed at how many of them fall for the psycho Bs and drama queens.
My last (short-term – I can’t find one healthy enough to become long term!
I’m a 42 year old single mom who is very attractive (I look about 7 years younger), fun, has a great smile and laugh (and does both a LOT), emotionally stable, and not looking to race to the altar.
And I definitely fit the definition of a “cool chick” – and my guy friends will confirm:-).” Unfortunately, the pool of men that I’m dating from (early to mid 40s, usually divorced) are pretty messed up.