Dating tips for 13 year olds
"How you answer these types of questions tells you whether he can be trusted to follow your rules," says Dr. If you do think your child is mature enough to join Facebook, be prepared to become a member, too (if you're not one already).
"Sign up kids ages 13 and 14 yourself, and keep the password so they can't access the account without you," advises Kathryn Rose, a social media expert and author of . That way you can check on postings and conversations, says Jeffrey Jensen Arnett, Ph D, professor of psychology at Clark University in Worcester, Massachusetts, who also advises setting time limits.
"You'll get an email immediately if a video, tweet or public Facebook comment tagged with your child's name has been posted online."2. "At 14, kids aren't socially mature enough to handle a one-on-one relationship," says Jill Murray, Psy D, a psychotherapist in Laguna Niguel, California, and a leading expert on teen relationships.
Simply put, young teens are still impulsive and often act without thinking, she explains.
So if your daughter goes out with a boy who becomes sexually aggressive, she may not know how to tell him to stop.
And at this age, it's usually the boys doing the pushing, though many girls are becoming more sexually aggressive too, adds Dr. What's more, when young teens spend a lot of time alone together, it can create an artificial closeness that may lead to early sexual involvement, she says.
"Many younger teens, especially girls, think it's fun to post photos of themselves wearing belly shirts or other provocative clothing without really understanding the sexual message it sends," explains Dr. That's yet another reason to friend your kid, so you can see what images he or she is uploading. Is she talking about getting together one-on-one with the boy she likes or hanging out with him in a group of friends?
"Now all those people are in his network, privy to the information, videos and photos he posts." What can you do to protect him, short of saying, "No Facebook, ever! First, determine how responsible he is, says Deborah Ramirez, Ph D, a clinical psychologist in Blue Point, New York.
"Most of the activity happens in a pack, and communication takes place between friend groups." By 8th grade, dating probably means talking on the phone and hanging out, usually in groups.
By high school, kids are more likely to develop serious romantic attachments.
When it comes to raising kids, the teen years are, hands down, the most complicated. "A teenager's brain is not nearly fully developed, especially the frontal lobes, which control our ability to use good judgment," says Roni Cohen-Sandler, Ph D, a psychologist in Weston, Connecticut, and author of So once they're on Facebook, they're likely to do and say things they shouldn't. "Kids often accept every friend request they get, whether they know the person or not," says Shawn Marie Edgington, author of .
You figured out how to solve temper tantrums and bedtime battles, but now social-life issues are throwing you for a loop. You've got questions, we've got answers—at least for four common quandaries.1. "The more friends they have, the more accepted and popular they feel.